My friend and I, we are both mediums, were invited to a home where there has been a lot of ghostly activity.  It was not the sort of thing where a headless woman walks through walls or anything gruesome.

We were told only scant information and decided our best course of action was to hold a seance (circle) and see what or who came through.  We are very practical about such things and not over dramatic as some are.  We believe in subtlety when working with earth bound spirits.  Not so much Ghost Whisperer as Ghost lipreader!!

We sat together in meditation and asked our guides to help us find out who was there.  We each had our own experiences.  We each gave our full descriptions of what we saw and heard, to the home owners.

These descriptions matched a lot of what the family had experienced and the names which came through were evidential too.  It did appear that those who were inhabiting the house were not related to the family.  Though they did not mean any harm and no bad vibes were felt at all.

The interesting thing was when I sat with my eyes closed, I felt a child blowing down on my face.  The home owner said that was exactly the place he sits when he gets the same sensation on his face too.  We both felt this was very childlike.

My friend saw a dog on the staircase.  She described it and again it was the same as had been seen by the owners.  Although the ghosts/spirits were not all connected, they were seemingly happy together and not intruding on the family life.

We are going to go back soon to try and find out more and see if there is anything they need our help with.  The family don’t feel threatened in any way.  We are sure that these are spirit communicators, and not naughty ghosts.

This is just one example and I will relate others from time to time.  If you need help or advice on this subject please email me anytime.

There are many so called ‘Ghost Busting’ or ‘Haunting Nights’ being held across the country and even on the TV.  Ask the potential ghost buster just what he or she expects to see at the event and it differs greatly.

Some say that they fully expect to see a ghost as that is what they believe the event is for.  Others think that they will see things moving of their own accord, such as tables floating and smaller items floating in mid air.

Ask what they think ghosts are and this varies too. Lots seem to believe that every spirit who has left their material body, is able to haunt places and appear at will. Others think it is only the ‘troubled’ souls who stay around to haunt and scare people.

The simplest explanation to me is that a ghost is an image trapped in time. When people say they have seen the ‘white lady’ or the ‘small child crying’, the event is usually relayed in the same way, with the same description, by all those who say they witnessed it, every time. There is usually no variation in the event.

It came through the wall and floated over to the other wall before disappearing into it….

The room went cold and there was a bad feeling or bad smell in the air when the ghost appeared and did her usual thing, whilst carrying an object….

It appears at the side of the road sometimes at 2am and floats across as though the road was not there, doing the same thing each time….

My belief is that the reason the image is trapped in time, is because of a violent and unexpected passing, the shock of which somehow causes the effect to make an imprint upon this earthly plane. Spirits who pass over to the Spirit World in the usual manner do not seem to go in for haunting.

My experiences are usually of  the spirits of loved ones, who are wanting to let us know they are watching over us, and to give us reassurance at difficult times in our lives. They can communicate to us via a medium and bring messages of love, not scaring us or haunting our homes as this would achieve little.

I believe we can all learn to tune into the spirits of our loved ones, if we would just take the time and make the effort.

As my regular readers know, I believe that ghosts are images trapped in time, not evil spirits.  They are always seen at the same time of day and doing exactly the same thing every time.  I believe these are the images of those who have died a violent or tragic death.

Spirits are those who live in the spirit world but have loved ones on earth whom they want to communicate with.  Because they love us they do not want to scare us.  They do nor haunt us.  They do not want to and they have not the time to either. They are getting on with the progression and evolution of their soul.

Once you realise the difference between the two then you can understand what is happening.  Ghosts will no longer scare you.  A spirit will only contact you if they love you, and the bad spirits will not want to.  Although, there are obviously good and bad in  spirit just as there is on earth. We all go back home to the spirit world from where we all came.

Maybe the most haunted haunted cast would be better off looking for good spirits and a little less trouble.

In Ghost Hunters there are none of the over theatricals.  No OTT squealing or silly faces being pulled.  The team actually seem to want to find the truth, rather than over dramatised rubbish.

It is an American programme and maybe that is why it is more credible. I don’t think they would want to screen our silly version.  I certainly find it entertaining and will continue to watch in the hope that they prove something to me about the existence of ghosts.

They don’t surround themselves with lots of would be celebs.  Instead they go along to various locations, taking photographs and recording equipment.  They actually seem to know what they are doing.

Watch for Ghost Hunters on Sky TV,  and I will look forward to hear your comments and views.

There are many so called ‘Ghost Busting’ or ‘Haunting Nights’ being held across the country and even on the TV.  Ask the potential ghost buster just what he or she expects to see at the event and it differs greatly.

Some say that they fully expect to see a ghost as that is what they believe the event is for.  Others think that they will see things moving of their own accord, such as tables floating and smaller items floating in mid air.

Ask what they think ghosts are and this varies too. Lots seem to believe that every spirit who has left their material body, is able to haunt places and appear at will. Others think it is only the ‘troubled’ souls who stay around to haunt and scare people.

The simplest explanation to me is that a ghost is an image trapped in time. When people say they have seen the ‘white lady’ or the ‘small child crying’, the event is usually relayed in the same way, with the same description, by all those who say they witnessed it, every time. There is usually no variation in the event.

It came through the wall and floated over to the other wall before disappearing into it….

The room went cold and there was a bad feeling or bad smell in the air when the ghost appeared and did her usual thing, whilst carrying an object….

It appears at the side of the road sometimes at 2am and floats across as though the road was not there, doing the same thing each time….

My belief is that the reason the image is trapped in time, is because of a violent and unexpected passing, the shock of which somehow causes the effect to make an imprint upon this earthly plane. Spirits who pass over to the Spirit World in the usual manner do not seem to go in for haunting.

My experiences are usually of  the spirits of loved ones, who are wanting to let us know they are watching over us, and to give us reassurance at difficult times in our lives. They can communicate to us via a medium and bring messages of love, not scaring us or haunting our homes as this would achieve little.

I believe we can all learn to tune into the spirits of our loved ones, if we would just take the time and make the effort.

There is a perfectly good explanation for ghosts.  Images trapped in time, after an untimely or violent death, is the valid one.  The world is not full of dead people haunting those who they are angry with.  The Spirit World is the home of  ’dead’  people when they move on from this existence.  They do not linger around to frighten and upset.

We all come here form our home in the Spirit World to learn lessons and evolve into a higher existence.  We go back home when our allotted time is up.  Why would we want to hang around haunting people.  Our only ties are with our loved ones and we do not want to alarm them. 

When spirits do come back to communicate, it is to uplift  and comfort those loved ones left behind, not to scare them.  Communicating with our loved ones helps to prove that there is life after death, and reassures those we have left behind, so that they know we all meet again.

Yes, sometimes spirits do make a noise in your home.  Sometimes they do move small things around.  Sometimes they stroke our hair or our face and let you smell their favourite sent.  This is comforting, not haunting.

It is though, a very interesting subject and we are all learning new things everyday.  who knows what we may find out in the future!

I do like to hear your stories. Please share by emailing them to my website.

I have heard lots of rubbish given out as messages from the church platform and from the hall stage.  Some of them make me really angry, and I have to learn to rise above it all.  But is does not stop me giving a word to the wise.

I heard about one medium who told a group of novices that their auras were colliding,  because they were sat next to the wrong people in the circle.  Nonsense!

A lady wrote to me and told me a medium had told her that her path was being closed down.  No one can close down your path.  Not you or anyone else.  It does not happen because a medium said so.  Even when you pass over to the higher side of life, your path is still open.  Your spirit lives on.

Ghosts are sometimes said to be naughty spirits.  Ghosts are actually images trapped in time.  Supposed hauntings are spirits of loved ones who have passed over and want to communicate with you.  They are not haunting,  just trying to be close.

Some mediums say they can call up famous spirits.  They cannot.  No particular spirit can be summoned to appear.  The only spirits who come through are the ones who want to communicate via a medium, for the purpose of helping a loved one.

Some mediums say their guide makes them appear drunk, or that the guide can maipulate their body whilst the medium gives clairvoyance.  This cannot happen.  Spirits are not physical.  They have no body.  They cannot make your body do things whch you do not want.  It is showmanship, that’s all. 

There are many more, and from time to time I will tell you some of them.  If you have any yourself, please share them with us.

One particular building was well known amongst the work force for being a cold and eerie place.  They were convinced it was haunted.  We are talking big strong men here, not school girls!

There were tales of men seeing shapes appear in cold spots around the workshop.  One man had seen a figure appear in mist, but he could see right through the figure.  He could actually see what was at the other side of the figure, right through it.

Word got around and it became a workshop where men were reluctant to go.  Once someone was brave enough to talk about it others then admitted seeing and feeling things of an eerie nature.

I went along with  2 other mediumistic  friends.  We went around the empty workshop and felt the cold spots.  It was at one of these cold spots that we sat for a short time to tune into the spirit world.  We soon began to pick up information from spirits.

The main communicator was a man who brought with him a sandwich box containing banana sandwiches.  He proceeded to sit on an upturned box and eat his sandwiches.  He gave his name and said his son worked in the factory.  He also gave us lots of other information including dates and descriptions.

When the communication was ovr we went back to the bosses office.  A workman was just entering the office at the same time.  As we began to relate the information the the manager the workman stood with his mouth open.  Shocked to say the least.

His was one of the names the spirit communicator had given and the spirit turned out to be his dad.  It seemed the spirit used to work in the same workshop and would bring banana sandwiches every day for his lunch. He always sat on the same upturned box in the same area we had seen him.

It was the spirits need to contact his son and give him some advice about a current problem, that had led to the so called haunting.  Once the spirit had served his intended purpose, he was happy to move on and leave the factory in peace.

He explained that his cat, which once belonged to his now deceased mother,  seemed to be having some sort of fit but it seemed to always coincide with lots of books flying off the bookshelves.  He was freaked out by it and obviously, so was his cat.  He felt he was haunted by a bad spirit!

Having a browse around his bookstore convinced me that there was nothing sinister going on there.  Whatever was happening was of a kindly nature.  There was such a calm and peaceful atmosphere.

A prayer and a seance later and it was obvious what was going on!  The man’s mother, now on the higher side of life, communicated with us.  She said she was concerned that her son was being duped by a would be investor and wanted to warn him. 

She didn’t know how to get his attention and she knew he would not go to see a medium.  So, she took things into her own hands.  She would attract the attention of her beloved cat and this would make the cat go wild.  The cat knew she was there but could not see her. 

As the cat began to go wild, the mother would make books fly from the shelves, although she admitted that she didn’t realise at first that she could do this.  It amused her, but the main aim was to contact her son.

Now she  had managed to get her son in the same room as a medium and she could tell him what and whom to beware of.

Her mission over, the mother left our presence, leaving her love and affection.  We closed our seance and prayed to thank the spirit world for their help.

More stories next time…..

It may be that they feel their home is haunted, or even that a member of the family is haunted.  Sometimes they think they have a poltergeist.  They may think they have a ghost. 

It is then that they ask for help.  They may have put up with the situation for a long time , before plucking up the courage to do something about it.

These people often have had no dealings with mediums before and are often unaware of the psychic or spiritualists  world.  On other occasions there maybe someone in the home who  is developing psychic gifts.  It varies so much and I have to keep an open mind.

I usually make an appointment with them  and go along to the home to see what I can find out.  Figuring out what is actually taking place is as important as what I do about it.  It is not always straight forward.

There are often troubled people involved, and a caring and sympathetic attitude is really important.  It is important to find out what each member of the household feels about the situation and how it is affecting them personally. 

Once I have come to an understanding of the problem I will set about sorting it out, in order to leave the family in peace. 

This week I will write about  some of my experiences.