Mediumship and Beyond

You can contact a medium as soon as you like, but you may not be prepared for it immediately after the passing of a loved one.  You may need to give yourself time.  Be gentle with yourself!

It varies from person to person, the amount of time needed for grieving.  It is not everyone who can sit for a reading whilst they are still upset.  Some need a while.  You will know when you are ready.

The ‘dead’ person’s spirit will go home to the spirit world,  but will be able to communicate with the material plane when they are ready.  The time needed for them to prepare depends on just how evolved they were before their material life.

Some spirits are much more aware than others and will know how to communicate easily, but others may need a little help at first.

Sometimes a third ‘person’ assists them with the communication until they are ready to do it for themselves.  We know that not all spirits are as evolved as others, or as knowledgeable, from earlier communications.

It is known for another spirit entity to bring through a newly crossed over spirit with them.  They help to pass on the message to the medium’s sitter. You will know then that your loved one is safely over to the higher side of life.

This is strictly my belief and cannot be taken as fact. Others may have a different opinion.

A grieving parent asked me the above question about babies and here I will do my best to answer.

To understand what happens to miscarried babies, you have to have an understanding about the spirit world and our eternal connection with it.  It will also answer the questions about young children passing over too.

We all come from the spirit world.  It is our eternal home.  We are all spirit through and through.  Our aim as a spirit, is to evolve spiritually, and sometimes that means coming to live on the material plane to learn lessons not available to us in the spirit world.

It is us who choose to come here.  We have the will to do so.  We understand what it is we need to learn and that we may need a material life to learn it.  This is not about aliens or other world beings at all!  We are not ETs!  We are who we are, and that is humans, with an everlasting spirit.

We make the choice to come here and the setting and family into which we need to be born, so that our lessons can be learned.

Whilst here we not only learn the lessons ourselves, but also help in the lessons of our earth family and friends.  In fact all of those who we ever come into contact with.  We help each other in our spiritual task.  Even though we are unaware of it.

It may be that you need to learn how to be humble.  You may have already had a life where you suffered from being rich!!!  You may have been a monarch or other wealthy person.  You learned about that and now you need to learn the lessons of depravity and maybe starvation.  The Queen never has to learn to be humble (in this life).

You may lose a child at or before birth and wonder why this poor baby had to suffer so, and why you had to lose it and suffer the loss.  The child will have chosen it’s short span and you will have needed to learn something from it too.  However harsh it may seem now.  This may be a lesson that is hard to come to terms with, as mere mortals, but back in the spirit world you see the sense of it all.

It is not for us to remember our spiritual home whilst we are here on earth.  If we did it would all get in the way of our lessons and therefore our evolvement.  We have no memory of it whilst we are here, but at our passing it will all come back to us.

Our loved ones, including our babies will be there waiting to greet us and it will have all been worthwhile.  We will see each spirit in the same way we saw them here, in order for us to recognise them and feel safe with them.

It is quite wrong to say that a baby is now grown and big, long after its passing.  They do not continue to grow their earthly body after passing.  They cannot, as their body was left here, and is no longer a necessity.  The spirit grows and evolves though.  Still having the body though in the spirit world is a ridiculous assumption.

It worries some parents that if their child grows up in the spirit world then they will not recognise them when they meet again.  Why add to this fear by saying such nonsense?  The body cannot grow after death; only the spirit can!

Yes, you feel the loss.  Yes, it is traumatic.  Yes, it is natural to mourn the losses.  We are humans and feel the pain of death and bereavement. It is a hard time for us all. A time when we feel we will never get over our loss. The happiness comes back to us in our eternal home – the spirit world!  That is our gift.

Well, this is a difficult one!  And I would suggest here that it varies very much according to how much knowledge the spirit had when it came here from the spirit world in the first place.

Some spirits or souls are far more evolved than others, regardless of their material life.  It may well be that a person may seem to be well developed psychically and more so than, say their partner.  But, in their spiritual home it might have been the other way around.

We have no memory of our spiritual life whilst on the material plane, as it would prevent us from getting on with our purpose.  Therefore it is hard to tell how evolved each of us is.

If a spirit is well evolved, it may be an almost instant event for them to go home after they pass.  They may see their loved ones waiting to greet them and accompany them over to the other side, making their transition relatively easy.

For a less evolved spirit it may take a bit longer, but they will still have loved ones waiting to greet them and go with them to the light.

Sometimes whilst on their ‘deathbed’, a person may talk to an ‘invisible’  being and appear to be watching someone, usually at the end of their bed or at least in the room.  They will mention loved ones names and surprise the relatives who are at the bedside.

It is often thought that it is drugs which cause a dying person to act in this manner, but it is really their ‘dead’ loved ones come to take them back home.  They can really see them even if you cannot.

Most of us find it rather comforting that their loved one will not take their ‘final’journey alone.

When a loved one has passed over to the spirit world, I know all you want to do is feel them, and hold them, and talk to them just as before.  It is no longer possible to feel their physical presence or see their physical body but it is still possible to communicate with them albeit through another person.

You may be able to learn to do this yourself with practice, or you may find out that you can do it already.  If not, then you can still get communication from them via a good medium.  You can do this by going to see one privately, on the recommendation of a trusted friend or relative.  Otherwise, you could go along to a meeting at a spiritualist church or hall where a medium is demonstrating clairvoyance.

If you plump for the private consultation, then you are more likely to get a longer reading.  This reading may or may not include a message from your recently ‘lost’ loved one.  Sometimes when loved ones first pass over they are unable to communicate.  It may take them a while to adjust to their new circumstances before they are ready to get in touch.

If it is not possible for the recently passed over loved to communicate themselves, they may pass communication to you via another spirit personality.  It all depends how much evolved the spirit was before it’s earthly existence.  Some already know how to communicate and therefore they get in touch pretty quickly.  If they had no experience, they will have to learn, much the same as we have to learn here.  Therefore, you may have to wait a while.

When you go for a consult, it is no good asking for just the one person to come through, as you cannot call up any spirit.  You have to ask for communication and then wait and see who comes through.  In my experience, it is best not to get into any conversation with the medium before your reading.  Wait until afterwards to ask any questions and before divulging any information.

Any medium worth their salt would not ask you any questions.  It would get in the way.  A medium has to keep a clear head and so anything you talk about is a hindrance.  Just say yes, no, or, I do not know what you mean, in answer to anything the medium says.  It is best for all three of you, you, the medium, and the spirit entity in the long run.

If you choose not to go for the private reading then you could go along to a meeting and the medium may come to you and pass on the communication from spirit.  Again, do not feed the medium, just keep your responses short and to the point as I have suggested above.

I am not suggesting that you live in the past, tor hat you replace the living with the dead, Neither do I suggest that you don’t move on with your life.  What I am suggesting, is that you come to a realisation that we are all spirit and that as spirit we can all communicate with each other, albeit in a different way than on the earth plain.

We all are SPIRIT and came here to this earthly life, from our home in the Spirit World, to learn the lessons that only human life could teach us, in order to facilitate our eternal evolution.  When our lessons are learned and our time is up, we go back home. However long or however short the earthly time.  We have no say in that.

Remember, there is no beginning and no end to communication, or to life.  Life is everlasting.

On one of our trips to Canada, I was asked to give a private sitting for a lady. Here is the way this lady reviewed the reading I gave. This lady sent me a thankyou letter with the following review and told me I could place it on my websits. So here I share it with you.

A Canadian Lady writes: My Discernment

I did see a medium in the beginning of my journey…(actually two – but the first one was a fake and I recognized it immediately). The second medium I met was from England – and my meeting her was a story within itself so I’ll save that experience for a book.

But just to give you an example of the things this woman is blessed with…the knowing she has and can share with the bereaved, I will tell you about our meeting and what she told me about the death of my son and what was going on around him at the time. I hope you enjoy this journey to the unknown – I know it changed my life forever:

As Barbara & I sat down in the comfort of my girlfriend’s home, I immediately sensed that this lady was very kind, compassionate & grand motherly in nature. I sensed she was a good entity.

Part of my reading with Barbara Biggin

She saw a white car (Trevor had a white car)

She saw a ‘posh’ car (Trevor had a BMW)

She saw a little old lady with her arm around a young man. She looks to be about 70 (would have to be my grandmother).

She saw my grandmother’s place very neat (Grandma even lined up her silverware in the drawer…I’m talking the daily silverware all fanned out) She loved a place for everything and very neat.  She says she is taking care of Trevor.

She asked if another child in the family (a boy) has passed? (yes, my grandmother lost a grandson in 1994 at the age of 24 (my cousin – Johnny).

Trevor was talking about the pride in his car (Trevor wouldn’t stop working on it or talking about it, or washing it). Ximi and Trevor were always over, with Ximi inside the car, listening to music and watching her man work on the car.

Trevor is very annoyed (he’s talking now) about someone who is bothering me…he says “shut the door on their way out” (I just shut the door on someone close to me).

Trevor asked if I had a problem with the vacuum cleaner yesterday. (This was a huge hit…I don’t EVER vacuum – but I had to the day before when I spilt something all over…I kicked that damn machine all over the place before I finally gave up)…the medium said Trevor was laughing.

Barbara mentioned a beige cameo (I have one hanging over my bed)

Trevor was speaking…he had so many plans. He moved she thought; he appeared or was relaying homesickness (he moved to Edmonton 2 weeks before he died).

He was an old soul who lived each day to the fullest (anyone who knew him knows that is true). He has a ‘wicked sense of humour (Trevor’s trademark)

She asked does the 23 or 28th mean anything? He died on the 28th of June. She said a young lady was with him in the car (yes, his wife, Ximi)

She saw damage to his head (yes 3 skull fractures)

She said the young lady had glass on her face (yes, see accident photo’s)

She saw someone pulling her out.

She said they couldn’t get Trevor’s door open…was it a long two door car? (yes – and they couldn’t get him out as the flames were eating him).

Trevor was relaying that when they finally got him out of the car, the emergency crew put a thing around his neck. She said Trevor was watching all this but he was floating above it all, unaware of what was going on except that he was worried about the lady in the car. His spirit was out and watching, but he was still alive.

She saw them go to two different hospitals (yes, Trevor went to the burn hospital – Ximi went to another) Trevor was above the operating table, watching what was going on She said Trevor is saying he heard the nurse ask the doctor if they should get a ‘wrap’ for him. The doctor said no, there is no point. (That meant nothing to Barbara, it did to me – Trevor had 3rd degree burns to 80 percent of his body).

He had no concern for himself. He felt no pain, just worried about the lady. He was floating and unaware of what was going on. Not knowing he was dying.

He was worried/questioned something about a watch. (See Ximi’s reply below).

He said something about the glove box.(See Ximi’s reply below).

He said he saw a bunch of doctor’s and nurses putting fluid in him…and at this point he said to self, I wonder why?

He said I am putting something up for a memorial and not to bother – it is not important. And whatever is in that box that makes me cry – to stop it. (We think it might be Trevor’s ashes.  They are in a cedar box my brother in law made. I did take Trevor’s ashes to Cultus Lake and I had a nice cry on the bench with my son’s ashes and photo beside me).

The medium asked me if I have a dream catcher. Trevor was trying to get across that word. (I had no idea, but this was cleared up (See Ximi’s reply below).

Suddenly, the medium said, Oh, I feel heat…WAS THERE A FIRE? Until now, she did not mention the fire. THAT IS WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR – that is why Trevor was talking about the ‘burn wrap’.

The medium said Trevor was relying, “See mom, I’m in good hands” and Barbara saw Grandma again.” Grandma was keeping her arm around Trevor.

Moon River Song…Trevor suggested to listen to the words (see the lyrics below!)

Trevor felt proud he packed so much in his short life (I knew that; two children, a marriage, college and on his way to his new career in Edmonton…plus he had the opportunity to visit Guatemala to ask his love’s dad if he could marry her…not to mention all the other things he’s done in his short life…)

He said he had been  homesick but he was happy he moved to Edmonton. He was so excited about his new life with his lady and new job.

He says he’s learning to look at things differently now he has passed over. Values are changing. The session came to a peaceful close. I never felt lighter or closer to God than that moment.

Ximi’s Response to the Reading

Thank you so much for sharing the discernment you received! Was I ever amazed and overwhelmed when I read your email, she was right on! Everything she said about the color of the car, the style, Trevor’s feelings, etc. was so accurate, it’s amazing. It has given me so much peace to know Trevor is being taken care of and, like he said, in ‘good hands’. I must admit that what you wrote about her saying that I was in the car, the glass on my face, going to different hospitals, and me being pulled out really left me speechless. I cried when I read about how Trevor’s soul was still around his body and worrying about me, God I love him so much and I knew he was the angel who made sure I was ok.

About the watch, I want to share this with you since Barbara told you about a watch and a glove box. I gave Trevor a watch for Christmas last year, and he absolutely loved it. A couple of months before the accident, he told me it was broken (one of the handles was completely loose). For his birthday, I wanted to exchange the watch for another one he liked, but he loved it so much he refused to exchange it and said he wanted to have it repaired. We kept meaning to do that, but never had the time. So a few days after we got to Edmonton, he drove to Superstore and found a watch repair store in there, so he dropped it off. Just days before the accident, we went to pick it up but the store was closed when we got there. We went again the next day, and got it back, he was so happy to have it back. Since it was a bit loose on his wrist, he took it off the night of the accident because he didn’t want it to fall off since the place we went to was very crowded.

So, I put it in the glove box….I got it back after I was released from the hospital and I went to the garage where the car (or what was left of it) was. I remembered it was in the glove box and I was sure glad when I found it there. Like you said the book says, there are no coincidences and with all that has happened I’ve truly grown to believe in that as well.

One of Trevor’s favourite movies (and his favorite book which he loved talking about) was Dream catcher (by Stephen King), we actually saw it at one of the theatres in Langley (Colossus) a couple of weeks after we got married and I saw it again when I went to the movies here a couple of weeks after I came back. The movie is about four friends who have been friends since childhood and who met a boy who they called Duddits. Duddits was special, he was gifted in many ways although he was brain damaged. The movie is called Dream catcher because Duddits made a dream catcher for his friends. It was a sort of net with beads that was shaped as several circles, and each circle represented one of his friends. He used it to keep evil spirits away from his friends. I don’t know if this has anything to do with what the medium might have seen, but it came to mind right away when I read that question. Trevor and I talked for weeks about that movie and he kept telling me about how it differed from the book, I loved listening to it and I kept asking him about it. So much, that I began reading the book but I never got to finish reading it.

You know, I had never told anybody about this because I never knew whether if it was just something in my head or if it was something that is really meant to comfort me. Whenever I’m alone in my room or in my house, I always have SUCH a strong feeling of a presence around me. You know, like when you’re in a house and you’re not alone, you can feel you’re not alone. Well, I’ve felt like that so many times lately! And the beautiful thing is that I’m not scared at all, and I’m not upset at all, on the contrary, whenever I experience that feeling I’m overwhelmed by so much peace and joy in my heart. I too feel much more peaceful after having read about your experience with this second medium, and I thank you so much for sharing it with me Mom.

Moon River Song Lyrics
Moon River, wider than a mile,
I’m crossing you in style, someday
Oh dream maker, you heart breaker
Wherever you’re goin’, I’m goin’ your way,
Two drifters, off to see the world, There’s such a lot of world to see
We’re after the same rainbows end,
Waitin’ ’round the bend,
My Huckleberry friend,
Moon River, and me!
Moon River, wider than a mile,
I’m crossing you in style, some day . . .
Two drifters, off to see the world,
There’s such a lot of world to see,
We’re after the same rainbows end,
Waitin’ ’round the bend,
My Huckleberry friend,
Moon River, and me!

Of note is the fact that this reading took over one hour. There was much much more information and proof which came through. The above is just a brief example which Trevor’s mum wanted to share. I personally got a great deal of pleasure from giving this reading and will never forget it.

I have discussed cold readers and cold reading here in this blog earlier, as you will know. I have also talked about the subject a lot of late. Cold readers get me very cross as they deceive the sitter, who is often a person going through grief. Being conned is the last thing they need.

I was more than interested last night, when the episode of The Ghost Whisperer I was watching, included dealings with a cold reader.

It demonstrated just how much damage they can do. The cold reader was telling a family that their missing daughter was alive and well, whilst the Whisperer was seeing the spirit of the ‘very’ dead girl.

Naturally, the Ghost Whisperer won the day and taught the cold reader and the girl’s family a thing or too. Not least of all was how wrong a cold reader gets it and the upset that is ultimately caused.

If you get the opportunity to watch this episode then please do. It is good to see how they work and how it all goes wrong.

In the meantime, I suggest as always, only go to a medium whose name you have been given or one you know you can trust.

We are off on our trip to Canada early tomorrow morning. It is a long trip but worth it as it is a truly beautiful country. We always meet such lovely people whilst we are there and are forever surprised by the wonder of it all.

Last year our favourite part of the trip was a Whale Watching journey along the Gulf Islands. We saw plenty of whales and gazed in awe at the beautiful scenery around them.

I had a particularly spiritual event up in the mountains at Squamish, near Whistler, the year my sister Hazel passed over to the Spirit World.  She passed over unexpectedly whilst we were over in Vancouver and we did not get to say goodbye.

There was an old English country garden at one end of the street and for a moment, her favourite bird swoop down and posed for me whilst I took a photo. In another instant it was gone and we didn’t see another all the trip.

I stepped into a store and there was a cd playing. The song was ‘No Matter What’. A song which we sing in our Spiritual church back home and one with lots of meaning for me.

We went into another of my favourite stores, named Tickleberries, on our way to the Okanhagan Valley. It is quite a big store and I always spend a long time in there. I can never make up my mind what to buy. They make their own biscuits, candy and ice cream, so such much choice.

The minute I stepped into the store Elvis started to play and I remarked to my hubby that Hazel would be happy to hear it. There followed an entire Elvis Presley album. I sang and hummed along as I looked around the store. I am sure my sister was telling me she was there.

As we left the store with lots of goodie bags, the Elvis album came to an end. It was just as if she had arranged it all herself. All her old favourites were on there. I will always remember these special things and look forward to amny others on this trip.

I will keep you all posted.

I gave a private reading to a lady in BC Canada, and she kindly gave me permission to relate part of it to my readers and other seekers of truth.

Her son Trevor, had been killed in a road accident and I gave her lots of information during the reading about the event. In fact I knew nothing of the event until that reading.

I told her Trevor, showed me 2 different ambulances at the scene of the car crash and that one went one way to a hospital and the other went in the opposite direction to a different hospital. One contained Trevor and the other his wife, Ximi.

I saw the rescue team get a lady out of one door, her face being covered in glass, but they could not open the drivers door and the car had burst into flames. I saw them trying to get him out and eventually they did get him out and took him to a specialist unit. He showed me the things that happened whilst he was in the emergency room and I related them to his Mother, to her amazement.

He told me that he died from head injuries and mercifully did not feel the pain of fire as he was unconcious.  This to the relief of his Mum.

He described a lady in the Spirit World who was now looking after him. The description and details of passing fitted his maternal grand mother. This pleased his mum, who wanted to know he was not alone. She also wanted to know if he was still around herself as she thought she had become aware of him.

Trevor told me that the day before our reading, he had been watching his Mother, in her home, and she was kicking, cussing and crying at her vacuum cleaner. This made his mum both laugh and cry. She said she never, ever, vacuumed, as she had a cleaner who did it all.  Except, the day prior to the reading.  After the char lady had gone home, there was a bit of an accident and she had broken an item, causing a mess. So, unlike her, she got out the vacuum cleaner to clear the mess but could not get it to work.

She told me the tale of how she kicked and cussed at the vacuum and ended up in tears of frustration. This was obviously when her son Trevor had been there watching her. She was so pleased he could tell her about the past events, and then to prove to her he was still around by relating the recent event was a great bonus for her.

There were lots of little things unique to Trevor and his Mum, which he mentioned during the reading. It was a good mixture of past and present, but he also gave her information about things she did not know. This perhaps proved to her it could not have been some sort of mind reading.

Trevor said to tell his wife, Ximi, about the dreamcatcher, and we both thought he meant an American Indian dream catcher charm. He said his watch was in the glove box and his mum knew nothing of this. Trevor wanted this to prove it to Ximi too.

Later, she contacted her son’s widow, who had by then moved out of the country. Ximi told his mum that after the crash and her subsequent discharge from hospital, she had gone to the pound to collect the personal items from the crashed car. They gave her a couple of things which had included Trevor’s watch. They told her they found it in the glove box. It had been a gift from his wife.

When asked about the Dreamcatcher, Ximi said: It was in fact Trevor’s favourite Stephen King novel, and they had been together to see the film of the same story, just prior to the car crash. The crash had happened when they were newly weds.

Both Mother and Daughter in Law found great comfort in the proof of life after death that Trevor had given them.  Many things have happened along their journey since then, which reinforces their belief that they will all be together agin one day.

Small steps are the best way to learn to use your gifts and come to an understanding of how it all works.

Be gentle with yourself, or as an old spiritual teacher once said to me, ‘Give yourself permission to be nice to yourself’!

Do not expect too much and you will not then be disappointed or discouraged.  Give yourself time to grieve the passing of your loved ones in the normal everyday sense.  Get help when you need it and let friends and family be there for you.

When you feel you are ready to begin your journey of discovery and are keen to begin your development, that is when I can help you most.

I look forward to hearing from you.  You can contact me either through my web site:  www.BarbaraBiggin.com  or through this blog.